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How to Approach a Girl at The Gym.

How do you approach a girl at the gym smoothly...

Without drawing too much attention to yourself, and successfully get her out on a date with you?

I'll tell you...

  1. Be mindful of the gym "environment"(Take it Slow): Approaching a girl at the gym is different from approaching a girl in public.

    Since the gym is not exactly a bar or club, you have to approach the girls there differently.

    In another place, different from the gym, I would have advised that you be very direct in your approach.

    But since most people at the gym are more serious minded and focused on their workout.

    Then you need to be a little less direct.

    I hate to say "indirect", because indirect is a word men hide behind to act like p*ssies.

    But in approaching a woman at the gym, the circumstance calls for it.

    First, you need to get her to notice you as another member.

    So you should proceed in this order:

      => Get on greeting terms with her.

      => Then move to small talk.

      => And then ask her out.

    Now, circumstances can dictate a different approach.

    Myself for example...

    I am very experienced in dealing with girls, and also very socially calibrated.

    I can easily tell from a woman's signs when she's already into me and when she is open for speeding things up.

    I've done some things others would consider quite "daring and ballsy" in the gym.

    But I was only able to do them because, from experience, I already know what to expect.

    I've done this a number of times but (caveat!) don't do it unless you know what you're doing...

    Personally, I love ass...

    And in my development as a man, I've come to a place where I simply get aroused when I see a woman I find attractive.

    No thoughts whatsoever.

    So, a number of times, I've seen girls running on the treadmill, become aroused, and have gone over to compliment their ass and show them my boner.

    Now, these were girls I've lightly spoken to and could ascertain their interest levels.

    However, I've complimented girls at the gym on their lovely ass, right on meeting them for the first time.

    (Important: When I pulled these moves, I made sure she was the only one who could see or hear me.

    If you approach her this way, when others in the gym can see or hear. She will feel slutty. And if you make her feel slutty, she will shut you down.)

    But as a "beginner", keep it simple, and take it slow.

    Because that's how I also play it most of the time.

    But the reason to know the "rules" is to know when to break them without unwanted consequences. 

    As you become better at handling girls, you'll realize that every action you take is correct.

    Anything you do would be right because you did it.

  2. Be confident: To approach a woman at the gym, or anywhere else for that matter, confidence is key.

    Confidence is the single biggest thing women find attractive in men.

    So when you approach her, don't second-guess yourself.

    Don't half-ass it.

    If you commit fully to the approach then she'll be into it.

    Once you decide to engage her. Tune out other people in the environment.

    Pretend to yourself that it's just the two of you there - if you have to.

    Also, if you attempt to calculate your every move, you'll massively get into your head and then psych yourself out.

    Micromanaging your behaviour will magnify your approach anxiety.

    Just say "fuck it" and do it.

    After all, at the end of the day, she's just a harmless little girl.

    Your ancestors faced worse circumstances...

    They fought in wars, battled wild animals and sailed across oceans.

    The only difficult things you have to do today is play Battlefield and talk to girls.

    "Oh, your life is so hard!"

    Don't be a p*ssy.

    Important: Don't use pickup lines when you approach, they're lame and ineffective.

  3. Time your approach right: If she's in the middle of a rep, it will serve you well not to interrupt her.

    Because at this point, she will not be very receptive to your approach.

    You want to wait until she's completely done with her workout. 

    Or you could approach her when she's on the treadmill (I've done this several times) but don't stay for too long.

    And also approach and stand closer to her front, so she doesn't have to crane her neck too much to the side to engage with you.

    I'm sure you also don't want her falling off the treadmill.

    You could engage her a bit and then leave.

    Another good time to approach is before or after a class. There's usually time for a small amount of socializing.

    But, really, there's only so much time to engage with a girl in the gym, so your ultimate objective is to keep it short a and arrange a meet at a later time. 

  4. Be Social (Use Social-Proof): Before you approach a girl at the gym, you could make her see you as popular and friendly before you two exchange a word.

    The way to achieve this is by being friendly to/with other people in the gym (especially in her immediate vicinity).

    And people are more open and receptive to someone who others are already open and receptive to.

    So being sociable first makes your approach easier.

    It helps you "warm up" before you say a word to her, and since you've already chatted briefly with others in the gym you have some kind of social momentum behind you.

    So it's easier to approach - since you've already done it with other guys in the gym.

  5. What to say when you approach her: To be honest, you can say anything.

    And from being together with her in the gym and having the opportunity to see her for at least 30 minutes, gives you a lot of topics to "open" her with.

    Personally, when I approach girls at the gym, I usually ask stuff like:

      => "What program are you following?"
      => "Do you have a routine?"
      => "What are your goals/objectives"
      => "Do you diet?"
      => "How long have you been working out (in your life)?"

    And from these you could transition into other conversational topics, as the circumstance dictates.

    From there, you could tell her let's hangout later in the day, and then take her number.

    Or you could reapproach her at a later time and make plans to meet.

    Remember, don't just ask a girl for her number. Her number is useless by itself, if there's no plan to meet.

    And you don't want her number, you want her.

  6. Extra tip: Don't smell bad.

    Most people smell when they sweat a lot. So I'd advise that you use a good sports deodorant whenever you workout.

    Girls are better at catching the smell of body ordour than men, so even when you think you smell like a rose, she might still perceive some odour coming from you.

    It would be painful to lose a girl who would have been otherwise into you, because you didn't use deodorant.

    In conclusion, I know that you will now be able to approach that girl at the gym whenever you see her. Without fear, doubt or hesitation.

    And know exactly how to play it.

    Share your thoughts with me below...

Does She Like Me? (9 Subtle Signs a Girl Likes You).

"Does she like me?", you ask.

You're not alone, many men also have no clue. 

Below are the 9 subtle signs that show a girl likes you:

  1. initiate eye-contact with her, she holds it for longer.

  2. Proximity: This must have happened to you several times without your noticing it.

    Since most women cannot walk up to you and initiate first contact.

    They do the next best thing...

    They provide you with opportunities and avenues to make the first move.

    When a girl likes you, she will move closer to where you are in the guise of doing something else.

    Scientists call this Proxemics.

    Let's say you're in a supermarket, she will "pretend" as if she's browsing for an item near you, so that you might use the opportunity of her being nearby to talk to her.

    Another way this happens is you could be walking on the street and she's walking towards you on the opposite side.

    She will cross the road and over to your side so that she'll pass right by you.

    On occasion she might walk right into you (I'm not kidding), this might have even happened to you.

    Also, she might drop something when she gets in front of you.

    I recall an incident where a girl who liked me dropped her notes.

    I wish I could tell you I picked up on what was going on and made things happen.

    Unfortunately, I didn't.

    This was when I was still clueless.

    This happens so many times and in different ways that if you really don't know about it, you'd ever hardly know it's happening.

    I can recall several times in coffee shops where the girl will show her interest by coming to sit right beside me (from her old sitting position).

    It could be on a train, a bus, etc.

    Just be on the lookout for it.

    And in combination with these other subtle signs of a girl's interest, you'll never fail to pick up on it.

  3. Laughing at your jokes: I know you're such a funny guy. But trust me, you're not that funny.

    Even Bill Burr and Chris Rock aren't that funny compared how a girl who likes you will laugh at some of the things you'll say.

    When a girl likes you, one sure sign is laughing uncontrollably at things you say.

    Things that are not even that funny - as if you've just told the funniest joke on the planet.

    Laughter is a sign of submission.

    If you were to visit the president in the White House today, first, you'll have a giant grin on your face - before he even says a thing.

    And then you will laugh your ass off to anything he says.

    When a girl likes you she becomes like this towards you.

  4. Physical contact: Another sure sign a girl likes you is touching.

    She will tend to touch you a lot for no real reason, other than she feels like touchin you.

    She will playfully hiyou on the arm in reaction to things you've just said.

    She might put her arm through yours, so that you guys walk arm-in-arm. or she might just reach out and hold your hand as you guys are walking.

    She could come over and sit on your lap.

    When she wants to say something, instead of using just words, she'll touch you to get your attention.

    Also when she hugs you, she might linger a little longer, while holder you slightly tighter than normal.

    Another big one is touching you with her breasts, without recoiling.

    Girls are aware that any contact between a man and her breasts is sexual in nature, so they try their their best not to touch you with it.

    But when a girl likes you, she will freely rub against you with her breasts.

    Maybe when she's trying to pick up something beside you, or walk past you, or whisper something in your ear, etc.

  5. She Enters your personal space: This is close to the point above, but I'll give it a separate mention.

    Your personal space is the immediate space surrounding you, which if someone moves into, you will feel uncomfortable or even threatened.

    And this varies from culture to culture.

    But the things is, we are all socially aware of it and keep out of each other's space.

    However, when a girl likes you, she will constantly enter your personal space.

    And also, she won't feel uncomfortable when you invade hers.

  6. Flicking or touching her hair: Another classic sign that a girl likes you is flicking or touching her hair.

    Subconsciously, she is trying to look good for you.

    And this behavior has its roots in evolutionary psychology.

    A girl's hair is one of the signs that show youthfulness, and hence triggers attraction in men.

    She's subconsciously trying to show you she's young and fertile.

    And the funny thing is, they have no idea they're do this.

  7. Asking you personal questions: If a girl likes you, she will want to know more about you.

    Once she starts asking you questions about yourself, know that she is very interested.

  8. Doing things you ask (Compliance): Another subtle sign a girl likes you is complying to things you ask.

    If she doesn't like you, doing things for you will seem like pulling teeth.

    But if she likes you, once you tell her to come and sit here, or do this, or do that - she'll do them quickly.

    She'll be very agreeable when you tell her to come hangout to a specific location.

    She'll follow when you say "let's go sit over there".

    She'd readily and easily do most things you ask.

  9. Doing favors for you (Investment): this is also related to the point above.

    Girls who are attracted to you will do small favors for you - without being asked.

    She might see something you casually mentioned you like and she'll buy it for you.

    She might prepare your favorite meal and invite you over.

    She might offer to give you a back massage.

    Or to accompany you to a place you didn't want to go to alone.

    All without being asked.

    And there's an interesting psychological principle that applies here: the more someone does favors for you, the more they like you

    It is called the Benjamin Franklin effect.

    I'll go into this more in another post.

How To Approach A Girl At a Bar/Club (and Take Her Home)

In this post you will discover:

  • How to approach a girl at a bar or club and stand out from other guysWithout being creepy or scaring her.

    (Whether she’s alone, with a friend or a group of friends, dancing, etc. I will show you exactly how to approach her in each of these situations.)

  • How to be the fun, interesting guy she can't wait to meet.

  • The right mindset and attitudes to adopt, before you even get to the bar or club.

    Mindsets that guarantee you will have a good night filled with successful approaches.

  • Exactly what to do if you want to successfully take the girl home for a one-night stand.
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How To Be The “Prize” That Women Chase.

Now, you are already such a big pimp.

Eye-contact ————- CHECK
Tonality —————– CHECK
Self-amusement ——- CHECK
Non-reactiveness —— CHECK
Non-neediness ——— CHECK
All-shades-of-awesome ——— check, check, check!

You can now easily walk up to girls, and within seconds they are all drooling over you. 

And even without this feedback, YOU already know you’re the shit.

You stand tall like a champ. Walk like a champ. Lead like a champ, breath like a champ. And maybe even fvck like a champ.

But somehow, your charm and awesomeness seem to wear thin, with each particular girl, as the hours and days go by.

With each passing second she seems to find you less and less attractive.

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How To Talk To A Girl You Like (Without Rejection)

A few years ago, one of the biggest problems I had was how to talk to girls – especially if I liked them!

In the company of my male friends, or girls I had no interest in, I could be quite talkative.

But once it’s a girl I like: trouble

I either:

  • ​Ran out of things to say.
  • Didn't know what topics to talk about that she would find interesting.
  • Ran into awkward silences
  • Said embarrassing things that I shouldn't have said.
  • And didn't know how to talk to her so that she'd like me in return.

However, today, when you see me talking effortlessly to girls, you’d assume it came naturally to me and that I have some special gift that you do not possess.

But that’s not true. 

I learned how to talk to the girls I like, and so can you

So in this post, I will reveal to you the 11 secrets to talk to girls you like, effortlessly, and have them find you very interesting, and wish the conversation with you never ends.

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How to Attract Women With Body Language (4 Quick Hacks).

Does your body language attract or repel women?

To get girls, your body language is critical.

In this post, I will reveal to you how to become irresistible to women by learning how to use your body language correctly.

I will show you:

  • My body language success and failure examples
  • Scientific Experiments
  • And 4 quick hacks you can implement right now, to become irresistible to women.

Are you with me?


Let's go...

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