So, you’ve met a girl. Maybe you met her online, or at a bar the night before.
You’ve played it cool and managed to get her number. You’re about to send that crucial first text message when your brain freezes up and you panic.
You realize that you have no idea what to say.
Ask ourselves; why are we texting this girl?
What’s our aim here?
There’s probably a hundred different answers, but all of them can be condensed down to:
You like this girl, and we want to let her know that we’re interested.
That’s it. Simple.
Maybe you just want to take her out for a few drink and see what happens.
Maybe you believe she could be your future partner, or maybe you just want to escalate the connection between you both.
Texting is a fundamental catalyst to any of these outcomes, which is why it’s important that we get it right.
When it comes to that crucial first text message, what you don’t say is actually more important than what you do.
There are no ‘hard rules’, but there are certain things to not do.
First, we have to remember that the girl we’re texting has probably received millions of texts from guys in the past. So what we want to do is stand out from the crowd, appear confident, and get her attention all at once.
What this means is that, we must avoid all manner of boring conversation.
That means NONE of the following: ‘Hi, how are you?’, ‘Hey, what’s up?’ or ‘You okay?’, or any variation of these types of messages.
She doesn’t want to hear it. That isn’t going to do anything for her.
Instead, try something like:
“Hey Kate, it’s Joe, the sexy man from last night? Let me know if you want to chat”
Straight away you’ve established who you are, you’ve acknowledged her and you’ve done it with a dose of humor.
That’s much more memorable than ‘hey how’s it going?’
Secondly, it’s important to remember that women are attracted to guys who are naturally confident and masculine; two attributes which can be implied during texting.
Never use overly-feminine words or abbreviations like ‘gr8’ or ‘OMG’. Leave that to her!
Keep your messages as succinct as possible and don’t send her pages and pages of text.
Confidence is portrayed in short messages as it suggests you know exactly what you want to say and nothing more.
Remember to always appear interested in what she says, maintain an enthusiastic tone and keep the emojis to a minimum.
“Absolutely, last night was amazing. I’d do it again in a heartbeat. How did you find it?”
Ever heard a girl say she loves guys who are needy and possessive?
These are two of the biggest turn offs possible, and avoiding coming across as either of them is vital in your initial messages.
Both neediness and possessiveness imply desperation, which is basically the opposite of confidence.
Guys can come across desperate when they overload her with text messages without giving her reasonable time to reply.
If she hasn’t replied within an hour, maybe she’s busy. Don’t immediately assume she’s ignoring you and send her another message.
Major turn off.
A hotly-debated topic regarding texting women is the timing of messages and the periods between replying.
I’ll tell you right now: these aren’t important.
It’s perfectly fine to text her first thing in the morning or reply to her messages within a few minutes of her sending them.
This does not come across as needy. In fact, it shows confidence. What’s important is the content of the message, not the time of the message.
Chances are, if you’re texting this girl, you’d like to take things further.
Text messages are simply a means to meet up with a girl; it’s not the basis of your relationship with her.
What this means is that texting shouldn’t be used as a ‘get to know you’ device.
The real talking should be kept for when you meet up.
The last thing you want is to have talked about everything already via text and then ran out of things to say in the flesh!
Of course, you don’t want to jump in too soon with the ‘wanna go out with me sometime?’ question, so instead just imply it in your messages.
Intrigue is a big turn on for women, so keep it vague.
“Just got some brand new alloy wheels put on my car. I’ll make sure to bring it round yours sometime!”
“You into rock music by any chance? Only asking ‘cause I’ve got a spare ticket for some concert next week.”
Texting has quickly become a crucial step to master in the dating world. It’s not going anywhere, so we need to get used to it.
At the same time we should remember that it’s not life or death, it’s simply just trying to get yourself across in the best light possible.
Written communication has always been a tricky subject because we’re relying only on our words; we aren’t able to convey our points with body language or non-verbal cues.
However, with a little bit of guidance we can make sure our text game is on point.
When a girl wants you to make a move, she will show you a lot of signs.
It's left for you to pickup on them and act.
The most she will do, 99% of the time, is show you, through her behavior that she's available.
And it is left for you to take action and make things happen.
I didn't make the rules. Making things happen is part of your role as the male.
Here are the signs she wants you to make a move:
When a girl stares as you it means one and only one thing: interest!
A girl staring at you means she likes what she sees and is interested to know/find out more.
The biggest body language sign of attraction is eye contact. And if a girl stares at you for more than 3 seconds she's massively attracted.
And at this point it is your job to make things happen.
99% of the time the most a woman who is attracted you will do is stare briefly...even if she's already wet and dripping for you.
It is your job to take the relationship from starring to lovers.
What to do when a girl stares at you.
Simply walk over and say hi.
Believe me there's hardly a downside to this.
At the worst, she might not be receptive, for some random reason, and at best you could get a new girlfriend or lover that will get your dick wet tonight.
Don't wait for too long before you approach. Waiting makes her thing you're not confident and are afraid to approach her.
When a girl stares at you try to approach in approximately 3 seconds.
Hesitation makes you think and doubt yourself, and when you think about what could go wrong, you paralyze yourself with fear.
A girl will appreciate it more if you approached her with nothing well thought out or prepared to say and just said whatever came to your mind in real-time.
If you do this, you'll appear more authentic, spontaneous and attractive to the girl.
So your lesson for to day is to not hesitate to approach when ever a girl stares at you - because she's already massively interested in you.
I'd love to hear your thoughts below...
Staying out of the friend zone is easy.
The key is to not act in ways that signal "loser" or "beta male" to a woman's brain.
When you first meet a girl, she quickly groups you into either:
And this categorization is based on your behavior.
How you act...
Not your looks, or bank account balance, or whatever.
But strictly on your behavior.
So today, I will show you how to stay out of the friend-zone forever.
How to stay out of the friend-zone:
So there's a beautiful girl in your sights...
How do you get her attention, and make her like YOU of all the guys in the world?
I'll tell you...
Guaranteed Ways To Make A Girl Like You:
You've just had a great first date with a lovely girl.
What do you text her afterwards to keep her interest hot and make her go on future dates with you.
And maybe even date you?
I'll tell you...
The 4 Texts to Send After a First Date:
Some important texting tips:
When a girl likes you as more than a friend, it's easy to tell.
But you'll need to know what signs to look out for.
So today, I'll reveal to you how to know if a girl likes you as more than a friend.
8 Signs To Know a Girl Likes You As More Than a Friend:
When you know what signs to look for, you will quickly learn that every girl's body is a 24-hour broadcasting station constantly revealing information about their inner state, desires and intentions.
Her body language will leak out this information.
You've seen these signs severally.
Subconsciously, you know what they are.
On a level, you can "feel" when a girl is displaying signs of interest towards you. But consciously, you doubt.
Today, I will reveal to you what these body language signs are, so that you can easily tell when a girl likes you.
Even, not only can she not conceal her interest. She will also actively unleash a barrage of flirtation to seduce you.
Here are the 12 most important body language signs that show a girl likes you:
Just ask for it matter-of-factly, like it's no big deal - because it isn't.
She's not doing you a favor by giving it to you.
This is a mutual exchange of value.
You'll enjoy her future company, and she will enjoy yours too - because you're a cool guy.
If not her, then another lucky girl.
You could go, "Let's meet up later tonight at XYZ place".
And if she says ok, I go "What's your number?" and bring out my phone.
If she isn't sure of making it on that day, I still bring out my phone and take her number - so we can arrange a future meet.
Dos & Don't for asking a girl for her number:
So you've met a girl you like.
What topics do you talk to her about to get her attention, keep her interested...
And make her want to come back to you for more?
I've got you covered!
So below, not only will I show 120 interesting topics to talk about with a girl.
I will also show you the right way to go about about it so that the girl gets to like you more.
First, you have to understand that when you talk with a girl that conversations are just tools.
So the purpose of the topics you talk about with a girl are not to necessarily discuss facts or to arrive at a "destination" - like scientists in a lab, or people engaged in a debate.
...The only purpose is for you two "vibe".
For you two to have a good time.
So you should treat the topics with levity.
If a topic gets boring, or starts getting too serious, or she becomes uncomfortable. Freely jump to another topic.
Talking with a girl is not an interview or some sort of interrogation.
And you cannot vibe with a girl when the atmosphere of your interaction is "all serious".
And now that you understand this, let's get into the topic of the day...