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How To Deal With Rejection From a Girl (And Turn it Into a Yes)

A rejection can be very brutal to our egos.

It makes you question your value as a person...

Am I not good enough?

Do I really suck as a person?


Today, I will teach you how to handle rejections from girls like a boss.

And even how to turn a rejection into a yes.

Rejections are good...

The more you get rejected, the more you'll get laid.

If you're getting rejected it means you're taking action and talking to girls.

Which means you are already better than 90% of guys out there.

A popular saying I like goes thus: "You miss 100% of the shots you never take." 

This applies especially to success with women. If you don't risk rejection then your chances of getting laid are zero.

Here are the top 4 ways to handle rejections from a girl:

  1. Realize that rejections are not final:

    A "no" doesn't mean "never".

    When a girl rejects you, the normal thing to think is that that's the end of it.

    But it isn't so.

    Girls reject guys on a whim all the time - depending on their moods.

    Most times if you ask a girl why she rejected a guy she'll tell you, "Hmmm...I don't know"

    Also, a girl can't know you well enough in a few minutes to reject you.

    She only rejected her impression of you at that very moment.

    Some girls who rejected me have gone on to sleep with me within 24 hours of the so-called rejection. 

    You might come back in 5 minutes she's in a better mood. Boom! A different type of interaction than the one you guys had earlier.

    Maybe she's having a really shitty day.

    Maybe her cat died, or she lost her job, or is a lesbian.

    You don't know this.

    So if a girl rejects you today, try again later. The result might surprise you.

    Women love tenacity and persistence in guys.

    Sometimes girls reject you because they think you don't like them enough.

    Funny isn't it?

    By trying again she a few more times she'll rationalize that "he really must like me if he's persisted this much"

    Then boom! She opens up to you like a rose...


  2. Embrace an abundance mentality:

    The popular free dating website chose the best name possible: Plenty Of Fish.

    If one girl rejects you, big deal?

    There are billions of other girls in the world.

    And practically, there are hundreds or even thousands of other girls you have a chance with depending on your location.

    Deeply realizing this will develop in you you an abundance mentality.

    Don't let the rejection from one girl bother you one bit.

    If it's not her, then it's another girl.

    Right now, there are several other girls who will be extremely overjoyed to have you.

    Girls who will worship the ground you walk on.

    But you have to go out there and find them.

    Embracing abundance by realizing the endless options you have causes you to be less needy.

    And a lack of neediness is very attractive to women.


  3. Take rejections as feedback to improve yourself:

    The most successful people in life take failure as opportunities to learn.

    Failure and rejections provide you with invaluable opportunity to learn.

    Maybe your eye contact sucks.

    Maybe you voice sounds like that of a little girl.

    Maybe your body language sucks, or you dress like a hobo.

    Maybe you're too clingy.

    If you don't get rejected, you might never get a chance to improve yourself socially.

    After each rejection, you should take the lesson from it and move on.

    And if you apply the lesson you learned then your next interactions will be better.

    Personally, I started off by experimenting. I'll approach a few girls in a certain this manner to see how they reacted.

    If they reacted positively, then I'll add that approach or behavior to my repertoire. If not, I'll scrap it and experiment with something else.

    And before you know it you have a very deep bag chocked full of social skills.

    So embrace failure.


  4. Use rejections to fuel your "fury" and get the hottest girls:

    Most times when I get rejected by a girl, it turns me into The Incredible Hulk...

    Learn to do the same.

    Let's say you go out at night. Perhaps you had a long day at work.

    Or had a boring day at home.

    You are not in a social mood yet, so your vibe just sucks.

    The quickest way to get in "the zone" is to approach a number of girls and "get rejected".

    After a point your brain just snaps, "Enough!", "I'm good enough for these girls", "One of them is coming home with me tonight"

    Once this happens, you'll notice a surge of adrenaline and testosterone that wells up a force in you, ready to explode.

    Now you're all fired up and your brain is in the right place.

    You feel like a caveman who has to take the woman he wants.

    Magically, the next girls you meet become receptive because they can feel the pent up masculine energy coming from you.

    And the funny thing is, if you go back to the girls who rejected you earlier, they'll also be very receptive because you're now in the zone.

Why Don’t Girls Like Me? (Top 5 Things You’re Doing Wrong Revealed)

​If girls don't like you, trust me, it's not because of your looks.

Or your money, or car, etc.

It's mostly about things you can change in yourself beginning right now.

Today, I will reveal to you the reasons girls reject you, despite your best efforts.

And I won't just stop there...

I'll also tell you what to do to fix each problem.

If you apply the advice that I have for you below, your friends won't recognize you in a couple weeks.

And girls will be helplessly drawn to the new masculine you.

Here are the top 5 reasons why girls don't like you:

  1. Being too nice: It's good to be nice to people. It's the mark of a gentleman.

    But you have to draw the line whenever it drags you into foolishness.

    What most guys do is that they are extremely nice to girls. They bend over backwards to fulfill her every whim.

    She might say she needs some stupid item from next town and he'll drop everything he's doing and drive 45 minutes both ways to get it for her.

    Sure it's good to be chivalrous. Women are physically weaker than us and if she's with you she's kinda under your "sphere of protection".

    So if we're both out and it's cold, you could give her your coat, etc.

    But what guys do wrong is that they turn into a girls footmat and lapdog.

    You have to learn to say NO.

    It's one of the most attractive things that can come out of a man's mouth.

    If you can't say no then you'll spend your life being a slave to other people's whims.

    If a girl asks you to do something you don't want to, simply tell her no.

    And you know the surprising thing?

    Women secretly like it when you're not a slave to their wishes.

    They see you as a real man with a backbone who cannot be manipulated or pushed off his part.


  2. Not being "yourself": One of the most attractive attributes a man can have is authenticity - being himself...

    When you interact with girls, you might think you're being yourself.

    But more often than not you are: scared or intimidated.

    If a talking to a harmless girl intimidates you, then you're not being yourself.

    Your ancestors fought deadly battles and hunted monsters.

    Your ancestors battled the elements and stamped order into a chaotic, deadly environment.

    You are the offspring of champions and PIMPS.

    Your fore-fathers slept with the hottest cave women.

    Lions don't give birth to antelopes.

    So how the hell are you being yourself when you find a girl intimidating. The absolute worst she can do is say no to your interest - finish.

    You're not going to die from that.

    If you are girls and still wonder why they don't seem to like you, then wonder no more...

    Women like guys who are bold and confident.

    Guys who don't make things awkward because they are REAL.

    They come for her if they want her, and don't hide their feelings and desire for her.

    Another way guys show inauthenticity is by adopting a fake persona...

    Don't try to imitate someone else.

    Stay true to your personal tastes.

    Don't act like a biker, or gang member if you're not one.

    If you're a geek, accept it and act like it. It will surprise you that lots of girls dig geeks.

    Whatever your personal quirks and tastes are, hot girls will still like you - if you accept yourself.

    "Imitation is suicide", said Emerson. And truer words have never been spoken.


  3. Hiding your sexual intent for the girl: Women are very sexual creatures.

    Or maybe there's some other reason for the billions of dollars they spend on sex toys each year?

    And this is aside sex with other women, men and masturbation with their fingers...

    For a peek into how sexual girls are, search for the following Reddit subreddits: gonewild, RealGirls, nsfw and on/off.

    They contain thousands of pictures, videos and gifs of women voluntarily showcasing themselves in the most sexual of ways. 

    Girls love sex, and they know you love sex too.

    So any sort of pretense on your part forces them not to like you.

    If you like a girl sexually, stop trying to hide it.

    Learn how to arouse her quickly and take action.

    Girls are generally horny and looking for a guy who is shameless about his desires as a man to take them.

    Be that shameless guy and you will reap the rewards.


  4. Speaking too much: Knowing how to talk to girls is great. 

    But knowing how to shut the fuck up after you've learnt this is even better!

    Talking too much kills sexual tension, and reduces the chances of girl sleeping with you.

    Sure, initially, after you've just met a girl, you could bear the heavier load of the conversation - say 90/10.

    But the as the interaction progresses, strive something in the neighborhood of 30/70.

    Talk less and listen more - while maintaining intense eye contact with the girl.

    Girls love to talk and be listened to anyway, and if you're a good listener, you'll never have to worry about girls not liking you.

    Speak less, maintain eye contact and watch the sexual tension between the both of you shoot through the roof.


  5. Dressing poorly: A popular saying goes thus: "Dress like a king to be treated like one".

    If you dress poorly, then you shouldn't be asking why girls don't like you - because you have the answer right there.

    Girls put a lot of effort into looking good. And it is hard for them to like a guy who doesn't show he values himself to clothe himself well.

    Usually, your clothes cover about 80% of your body, so you should take great care in picking out things you'll put.

    Always go with clothes that fit you well. Iron them properly before use so that you look your best.

    There's no downside to dressing well.

    A great tip about cost is to "spend twice as much money for half as many clothes".

    When you do this, you buy better quality clothes that will last longer - and most importantly look good longer.

    Finally, it is also very important that yo stick to styles you're personally comfortable in.

    If dress shirts and pants are your preferred personal style, then stick to them. Don't dress like a biker or you will be incongruent.

    I hope this article benefited you as I intended.

    Let me know what you think below...

Top 7 Signs She Wants You To Chase Her.

Women will hardly ever chase you.

Instead, they'll drop hints and give you signs to act upon.

Unfortunately, many guys are inexperienced and miss these signs because they don't understand women.

From today, you will no longer be among those who don't get it.

Here are the 7 signs she wants you to chase her:

  1. She teases you with the possibility of sex: When a girl wants you to chase her, her biggest bait is sex.

    She will dangle its possibility to entice you.

    And it's now left for you to take action and act on it.

    She might bring up what she enjoys sexually. Or show you pictures of herself in sexy clothing.

    Or dress provocatively when she comes to meet you.

    What she's trying to say with all these is, "I like you, be a man and take me".

  2. She flirts with other guys in your presence: When a girls does this, don't get mad and feel disrespected.

    She's just trying to spur you into action so that you'll chase and win her over.

    Another thing she might do is tell you about all the other guys hitting on her - both real and imaginary...

    But you being the cool guy you are, you know this is a play for attention.

  3. She makes it obvious she'll be free at certain times: A girl who likes you and wants you to chase her will let you know about her free schedule.

    She does this in the hopes that you'll take the hint and ask her out.

    She might also inquire about your schedule instead.


  4. She playfully drops hints about both of you being a couple: I call this "future projection".

    She might start calling you "my boyfriend" or "my husband".

    Or introduce you to people as her boyfriend.

    Or talk about events both you two should attend as a couple.


  5. She holds deep, lingering eye-contact with you: Eye contact is one of the most powerful indicators of attraction.

    It is an open invitation from the girl for you to make a move and chase her.

    And for you, holding eye contact with a girl, without flinching is badass.

    It creates so much sexual tension that you can sleep with a girl very quickly.

    So when a girl engages you with prolonged eye contact, know that it's on.

  6. Proximity: A girl who wants you to pursue her will create several opportunities for you to do so.

    She will repeatedly pop up beside you - as if by accident.

    You could be walking on the street and she will cross over to your side so that both of you will cross directly.

    I've even had girls walk right into me.

    This is her giving you an opportunity to engage her.

    If you guys are say in the same class, she will make a point to sit very close to you - repeatedly.


  7. Flicking her hair: This is called preening.

    Here the girl subconsciously tries to make herself look good for you.

    She moves her hair from side to side to draw your attention to them - and to herself.

    I'm sure you've seen this several times but didn't really know what it meant.

    So from today be on the lookout for it, because it's a clear sign that the girl wants you to make a move.

How To Attract Any Girl Guaranteed (The 6 Critical Things You Must Do)

Attracting any girl is easy - if you know exactly what to do.

The same way you have no option but to feel attraction for a hot supermodel stepping out of a swimming pool...

Girls also have no option but to feel attraction for you if you act in a certain way.

No matter your looks, car or finances.

Attraction is not a choice...

As men, we evolved to feel attraction for women based on their physical attributes.

Attributes that indicate youth and fertility, like firm breasts, supple skin, youthful hair, etc.

Ten times out of ten, when you see a girl that meets these criteria, you will feel attracted to her - without fail.

On the other hand, women evolved to feel attraction for men based on attributes that indicated strength and status.

Strength here doesn't mean just physical strength. But most especially emotional strength...

Things like confidencemotivation, resourcefulnesspersistence, dominance, stubbornness, leadership, etc.

These are all qualities that will ensure survival in a harsh, unforgiving ancestral environment. And even today.

And once you can communicate some of these girls will inevitably feel attraction for you.

They have no option in the matter...

Doesn't matter if you're bald, or short, or walk with a limp, or have a shitty car.

Maybe these might make her hesitant to introduce you to her friends, but she will sleep with you quickly. And continue doing so.

What to do to attract any girl:

  1. Be Authentic: You know how the usual dating advice from your mom, aunties and sisters is "be yourself"?

    On the surface it sounds very lame.

    Of course you're already yourself - or so you think...

    In reality, you are now a shadow of who you truly are. A shadow of who you are meant to be...

    Imagine you were a little kid on a playground with a girl you liked...

    Your actions will most likely be along the lines of throwing sand in her hair, pulling up her skirt and ignoring her to go play with the boys the instant she bores you.

    But who have you become now?

    A pussy! 

    Now you're a wimp who cares too much about what she'll think of you - about every little detail about yourself.

    You care too much about how other people perceive you.

    You no longer follow your joys.

    Now you put girls on a pedestal and see them as goddesses.

    Fvck all that.

    Deep down, you're a caveman.

    And with girls it's either your way or the highway.

    Wonder why assholes have an abundance of women? That why.

    To attract girls, you have to be yourself. You need to be yourself to the motherfvcking hilt. 

    Being yourself means walking away at the first signs of I don't like this.

    Being yourself means no longer hiding your sexual intentions towards a girl.

    Being yourself means letting go of friends who don't add value to your life.

    Being yourself means following your bliss. No matter what other people think.

    This is authenticity, and it's like a breath of fresh air to girls.

    They just can't help but feel attraction towards guys who "are themselves".


  2. Have full sexual intent: Attraction is short for "sexual attraction".

    It's not "platonic attraction", or "like attraction" or "pen pal attraction".

    At it's core about two people fvcking themselves like monkeys.

    So take the gloves off.

    Stop pretending it's otherwise because you can never tip-toe yourself into a woman pants.

    If you want her to feel sexual attraction for you, you have to go there first.

    You have to become horny first.

    You have to put your cards on the table first.

    This is because of the way women are wired...

    They are wired to follow our lead.

    So if you can't look at a girl and imagine her naked, with your cock in her mouth - without flinching - then you might have a hard time triggering sexual attraction in her.

    By having full sexual intent towards a girl, and having no shame about it. When you speak to her she will feel the heat.

    And that sexual tension is what makes girls massively attracted, horny and want fvck.

    If you are face-to-face talking with a girl you like and you don't have an erection, maybe you should find another girl.

    Accept your sexual nature and that of the girl. And do not be afraid to convey it.

    Because if you feel sexual attraction for a girl and have no shame or inhibition about it, then 95% of your job is done.


  3. Have the right body-language: To attract girls, your body-language is important.

    People can easily tell a lot about you just from the way you walk, speak and carry yourself.

    Walk like a champ - with a measured pace - and not in a hurry.

    Speak slowly and never rush what you have to say.

    Make direct, unflinching eye-contact and you will get girls wet in your presence.

    Smile too.

    I go into much more detail about attractive body-language here.


  4. Fall in love with the girl you want to attract: I know it sounds cheesy...

    ...but to attract and have sex with any girl - even for a one-night-stand, it's easier when you genuinely like the girl on some level.

    Naturally, we like people who like us.

    And a girl will find it easier to open up to you if she feels you genuinely like her.

    This is why I strictly go for girls I really really like.

    Because when I genuinely like a girl (even for a one-night-stand), all my actions are easy - because I'm coming from a genuine place.

    Love begets love...


  5. Dress well: A popular maxim goes thus: "Dress the way you want to be addressed".

    Generally, if you dress like a tramp, people will tend to treat you as such.

    You're a prince. So dress like a prince.

    You clothes cover over 80% of your body, so take great care in choosing what you're going to clothe yourself in.

    Dressing well shows that you have high-self esteem, value yourself and deserve respect.

    Now, i don't mean you should wear only expensive clothes.

    No.

    A lot of great clothing don't need to cost you a fortune. Just go for the reasonably priced brands that are good value for money.

    Iron them properly before you wear them and you're golden.

    Make sure they fit well and are not over-sized.

    It's easier for a girl to act on her attraction for you and even show you off to her friends if you dress well.

  6. Ask her out: As a man, it is your duty to initiate interactions and relationships with girls.

    Sure, sometimes, they'll be the ones to do so. However, it'll still fall on you to lead things forward.

    So after all is said and done, you have to make it concrete to her that you like her and want to meet her someplace else where it'll just be the two of you.

    This is where you ask her out.

    And if you've applied the points above, then this is the easiest part.

    She'll even be dying to go out with you.

    Don't worry about specific lines to use.

    Just tell her anything.

    Remember: you are the prince - so anything you say and however you say it is the perfect way.

    Just ask her to hangout, or play pool, or watch a movie (on your laptop - no cinema!), or have some drinks - whatever.

    She'll be open for anything you suggest because you suggested it.

    And when you guys do meet up, act like a man - like a lover.

    Touch her.

    Hug her.

    Make and hold eye-contact.

    Kiss her.

    Do all those things you feel like doing.

    It is your job to initiate them and hers to coyly resist - until she gives in.

    That's how to attract any girl gents.

    Let me know what you think below...

How to Tell a Girl You Like Her (Without Seeming Needy or Desperate)

How do you tell a girl you like her – without coming across as either desperate, needy or even a jerk?

I’ll tell you…

To do this, use an ancient storytelling technique to get your point across.

That is: show, don’t tell.

What this means is that, if you want to tell a girl you like her, just going up and going “hey, I like you” shouldn’t be high up on the list.

The age-old saying “actions speak louder than words” has never been more true than it is here.

Implying your interest in a girl through subtle messages, prompts and body language is much more effective than simply telling her out-right that you want to take things further.

Being too direct with a woman puts her in a position of responsibility; you’re putting her on the spot.

All this will do is lead you towards the dreaded friend-zone because it reeks of neediness and the fact you’re desperate for her approval.Instead, you want to make her feel something when taking things further is implied.

You want her to feel special in that moment because it will be an indication of what your future relationship might be like.

Be a Good Listener...

Listening to a girl is one of the best ways to demonstrate to a girl you like her.

A lot of times, girls want to vent about a particular issue or experience; they’re not asking you to solve their problems for them.

But, by listening to what she’s saying and occasionally interjecting with well-meaning advice, she’ll begin to see you as an asset to her life, and that’s what you want.

However, don’t just be a lapdog when she’s talking. If she’s being unreasonable, you need to gently let her know.

For example, if she’s ranting about a new guy at work’s lack of ability, say something along the lines of: “That’s fair enough, but maybe you’re being too hard on the guy? Give him a chance. He might learn.”

By just agreeing with her there’s no assertiveness or confidence being portrayed; two very important factors to keep present at all times.

Ask Her Out On A Date...

The difference between a potential partner and a friend-zoned guy is simple; the friend-zoned guy lacks the motivation to make his feelings known.

Asking a girl out on a date is making your intentions known with an air of assertiveness.

When you ask her out, you should keep your confidence high and neediness low.

Something like: “Hey Amy, how’s it going? Fancy going out one evening; have a good time and see how things go?

The worst that can happen is that we have a few drinks and a laugh. What do you think?”

Money Don’t Make Her World Go Round...

Casually paying the bill at a restaurant or bar is a move which lets a woman know you’re definitely interested.

Firstly, it shows that you’re investing more than just your time, you’re willing to put money down for her to enjoy herself.

The same is true for gifts, however, you run the risk of appearing desperate if it’s clearly something expensive.

The type of gifts you want to get her are very small, personal gifts which she’s expressed an interest in beforehand; something that shows you’ve been listening to her and understand her interests.

It doesn’t even have to be something you’ve bought of recent. It could be a book or movie from your collection.

Be Prepared For The Outcome...

There’s a very good chance she might reject you when you tell a girl you like her.

If this is the case, don’t freak out. Instead, keep it calm and collected.

Thank her for her honesty, then tell her that you hope things won’t be weird between the two of you.

In a lot of cases, this response can lead to good things.

If she sees you as a cool, level-headed person who is mature enough to handle rejection, that’s a definitely a tick in your favor.

There’s a huge possibility of her changing her mind in the future; people’s opinions change vastly over the years.

Also, if you two are still on good terms, she’s more likely to speak highly of you to her friends.

Remember, it’s important to make your intentions known but at the same time not appearing as needy.

Always refrain from appearing like a desperate lapdog who will bow to her every whim; that’s the exact opposite of what you should be doing.

The mind-set to keep in mind when putting the above methods into practice is that you will enrich her life by being a part of it.

How to Playfully Tease a Girl (and Make Her Chase and Seduce You)

Teasing a girl is easy once you understand the principle behind it.

And once you learn how to tease girls, they’ll be like putty in your hands because it drives them nuts (and makes them chase).

When you meet a new girl you like, typically, your actions consist of things that serve to draw her closer.

Actions that build rapport.In contrast, teasing consist of actions that playfully push her away.

Keyword: playfully.

Teasing drives women wild because it makes you a challenge.

You show yourself to not be another typical nice guy who will lick her shoes in order to win her over.

When you tease a girl correctly, her reaction is to chase YOU

...Because now she knows you’re a challenge and will need to put in some work to win you over.

Here are the different ways to playfully tease a girl:

  1. Busting her “balls”: Here you playfully give her a “hard time” about something she’s done or said.

    Or about any random something that concerns her.

    For example, she could tell you she’s from Alabama and you go, “Eew!”

    99% of the time she’ll be like “What? What? What?”

    And you being the sly devil you are will simply move on to another topic.

    Trust me, she’ll press you endlessly to know why you said that.

  2. Devalidation: This would be some form of negative compliment.

    But remember, the keywords here are: lighthearted and playful.

    So you are not going for an insult, but something that slightly knocks her off her perch…

    It could be telling her she has lipstick stains on her teeth (or some vegetable stuck in there).

    While you watch her vigorously struggle to wipe it off.

    Or telling her she’s the 4th person you’ve seen today wearing the exact same dress.

    And the most devastating form of this is called Push/Pull.

    With push/pull you give her a compliment or do something that validates her and makes her think she’s hot – then you “take it away” by saying or doing something else that devalidates her.

    If you can keep this up for a little while, she’ll literally rape you.It is that powerful.

  3. Disqualifying her or yourself: Try casually mentioning in a conversation with a girl that she’s not your type, and the results will surprise you.

    Her single-minded goal from that moment on will be to prove you wrong

    …She will pull out all the stops to seduce you.

    In the same vein, anytime you playfully tease a girl about her not being qualified to have you in some way, the effect is the same.

    You could disqualify her because of her age, or occupation, or where she lives, etc.

  4. Give her a playful nickname: Nothing mean here, but it can be a little annoying.

    They key is being playful when you call her that.

    You could call her a spoiled brat, princess, pumpkin, or whatever you deem fit.

  5. Accuse her of trying to seduce you: Tell her things like.

    “Oh, I’m not that easy, you have to wine and dine me first”

    “You girls are only after one thing. I’m not just a piece of meat you know”

    “You look like a rapist” (watch her laugh her ass off at this one).

  6. Mimic her: Mimic her pattern of speaking or her mannerisms and exaggerate it in a funny way.

    This will usually lead to her hitting you in mock protest.

    But secretly she'll love it, and use the opportunity to initiate physical contact with you.

16 Action-Packed Second Date Ideas She’ll Never Forget

A second date is a great opportunity for both of you to bond. Get to know each other better. And get more comfortable in each other’s coming company.

A second date is not a time for stupid “romantic dinners” – women hate that stuff!

Why you ask?

If you think meeting someone new is unsettling, trying having a formal dinner with them at the same time.

It very uncomfortable for the girls. And you can leave such activities for later in the relationship – when both of you are already comfortable with each other.

 

A second date should be action oriented…

The sort of activities girls enjoy the most on second dates are “action” packed.

Activities that get you guys moving through a place or places, discovering new stuff and maybe even gets your adrenaline pumping.

Don’t be another boring guy. Give her a good time.

 

Here are a list of 2nd date ideas…

  1. Shopping for YOU: Yes! You read that right. When women met a man they’re simply trying to get into his world. So if you have something you’ve already planned to go purchase, invite her along. You could even ask her input along the line and this will make her feel valued and appreciated. You will be greatly surprised what fun this will be for a girl on your second date. Caveat: it’s very important that this doesn’t turn into a shopping expedition for her. Be a man with balls and do your thing even if she tries to pressure you into buying stuff for her instead. You are not looking for a gold-digger girlfriend.
  2. Going to a Museum: Some years ago, for our second date, I took a girl, on a whim, to a museum – a war museum! At first she seemed not to like it. Then gradually, she started warming up to the things inside. By the time we were through she had crossed arms with me and had her head resting on my shoulder as we walked out of the museum. We even had sex for the first time that day. The main thing really is to enjoy whatever activity you are taking her to. Women almost always adjust themselves to the kind of guy they’re with. That’s why you should always be yourself with women.
  3. Swimming: If she’s open to it take her for a swim. Could be the beach or a pool. And a really cool thing about swimming is that you two get the chance for lots of physical contact when you’re both near naked. And if she’s not good at swimming – even better. Then you get to teach her a few things.
  4. Take her to play Pool: Personally, I’m usually out in the evenings playing pool, so it’s an activity I enjoy. What I usually do, even for first dates is to invite the girl to come play pool with me. Are you seeing a pattern here? Good. Take the girl to activities you enjoy. Your sense of enjoyment and fun will be transferred to her.
  5. Take Her to Quiz Night: One of the bars I frequent have a quiz night every Tuesday. It’s always very fun – with lots of people competing against each other in groups of 6 max. Depending on the girl – I have a thing for smart girls – I invite her out to this bar for quiz night. I’ve never had a girl come who didn’t enjoy it.

    Other excellent second date ideas include:

  6. Bowling
  7. Karaoke
  8. Go kart racing
  9. Sky diving
  10. Go to the zoo
  11. Cook dinner together
  12. Volunteer at a shelter to walk a dog
  13. Take her to an amusement park
  14. Attend a sporting event
  15. Explore a new area in your city

 

How Often Should You Text a Girl (to Not Seem Desperate)?

If you’re wondering how often you should text a girl, you’re not alone.

There is no one-size-fits-all rule for this. However, the main thing is to not appear needy and desperate.

you can text as often as you want depending on the situation.

Let’s say a girl is on her way to your house, but some Internet dating guru (idiot) told you to wait for five hours each time before you respond to a girl.

Now if she texts you to ask for directions are you going to wait for five hours?

How often you text a girl should be on a case by case basis.

Some girls already like you very much, are very responsive and are almost 90% open to meeting you as soon as possible.

For these kinds of girls it is best to keep the communication going as soon as you can – and keep it going until you guys meet up.

Some girls on the other hand want to subconsciously test you first for neediness and any signs of being clingy.

Maybe she’s really busy and not ready to meet up anytime soon. Also could be that she hasn’t made up her mind about you yet.

Whatever it is, just match her pace. Or be slower than it.

Girls are crazy,  sometimes a girl who has been acting on interested just contact you I’ll talk to you I want to meet. Why do they do this because now there’s an opening for you.

I’ll give you an example. About two months ago I met a girl at the mall. I took her number and told her I will call her the next day – which I did.

I called her early in the afternoon and we agreed to meet up in the evening. Then when I called her in the evening she refused to pick my call.

I didn’t sweat it. I just understood that for some reason it was not possible for her to come and see me that evening.

Maybe she didn’t like me enough, maybe she had a boyfriend who wanted to see her.

Maybe she had some work to do.

So two weeks later I can I am as she picks up we speak a bit and then I tell her I’ll see her in the evening.

Again she agreed but when evening came she still didn’t pick my call.

So I just said to myself I’ve already tried twice, and if she doesn’t want to come that’s OK.

Just yesterday, out of nowhere she calls me up in the morning And playful he accused me of having forgotten her. I said no I haven’t, I am having a busy day I would get back to her later in the day.

Of course I had no plans of doing that because she had already flaked on me twice.

So far so to around 11 PM she calls me up again and asks why I didn’t call her. Again, I told her I had a busy day and would call her the next day.

So after a little back-and-forth I ended the call. At this point I was already in bed and was about to sleep off.

Then I asked myself, why would a girl who wanted to meet you call you by 11 PM? Of course because she wanted to come at that very moment.

So I called her back and asked her to come over to my place and she did.

Now this was a girl who was barely interested in talking to me earlier. She also flaked on me twice.

So my point is that the girl might just have her hands full at that point in time – with juggling boyfriends, jobs, family affairs or her studies.

You’d never really know. That’s why my advice is to match her pace in this case.

 

Some Important Don’ts:

  1. Don’t write “speeches”. Sometimes, the temptation might be high to write and write and write – especially when she’s responding favorably. But don’t do this. Create a little mystery by not giving it all away too soon. Reserve the longer topics and talking points to when two meet face-to-face and are bonding. Walls of text are a turn off for most girls.
  2. Don’t try to “get to know her” over text. Keep the questions to a minimum. Your eye should always be on the goal of getting her to come out and meet you.

How to Talk to Girls Online (and Make Them Go on a Date with You)

There are lots of online dating apps and websites out there right now.

But unless you know the right way to talk to girls online, you won’t get any dates no matter how many girls you talk to.

So what’s the right way to talk to girls online? 

Keep reading…

First, have a good profile...

To keep a girls attention online you’ll need a good profile that “sells” you in a positive light.

Of course you’ll need to be well dressed in your photos.

Then these pictures need to have good backgrounds – preferably cool, fun places, outdoors or some objects inside your house that could be the topic of a conversation. 

Additionally, we humans are social beings, and because of this, we want to associate with people who others already associate with. 

We want to be friends with people who others already like.

So one of the most “attractive” pictures you can have in your profile will be those of you and others. It could be you and a handful full of friends having fun, or of you taking part in some group activity.

It’s even better when you have pictures of you with other girls in there.

Talk to her the right way...

There are basically three steps to any online conversation with a girl.

They are:

Step #1: Starting the Conversation 
The best way to start a conversation is in a funny, interesting, unusual way – something she’s not used to, and something that catches her attention. Here are three suggestions:

  1. Joke about her name. For example, if her name is Jill, you might say: “Hi Jill, can I be your Jack?” followed by an emoji of a hill and/or a pail of water.

    If she has a good sense of humor, she’ll get the joke… if she doesn’t, then you probably don’t want to spend time with her anyway.

  2. Joke about her profile picture. For example, if she’s wearing an animal print dress, you can tell her: “That tiger must have put up one hell of a fight. It’s nice by the way.”

    Again, if she gets the joke, then you’ve successfully started a conversation with her.

  3. Talk about something on her profile description. Basically when you craft a customized greeting, she’ll be more interested in you… simply because too many guys out there just “copy and paste” their opening greetings to women.

Afterward, you can give her a genuine compliment – and once she responds positively, you can move to the next step.

Step #2: Have a Good Conversation.
You’ll want your conversations with girls online to be different from the conversations they have with all the other boring guys.

You’ll want the girls to remember you, and look for you when they feel like chatting, instead of the thousands of other guys she’s already met on the Internet.

You can do this by:

  • Being funny
  • Being interesting (having fun things going on in your life aside from online dating)
  • Being smart – such as by making educated guesses about what she’s like (e.g. “I bet you were a loner in school.”) One correct guess, and she’ll be thinking about you for a while.

I go really indepth about how to talk to girls and never run out of things to say here.

And once she’s having a good time chatting with you, move on to Step #3:

Step #3: Make Plans for a Date.
Of course you’re not talking to her for “talking sake”. You want to meet here and possibly date or have sex with her.

So at this point you make plans to meet up.

Don’t wait for her to bring it up because she most likely won’t.

You’re the man and it’s your job to make things happen.

So once you guys have some rapport going invite her out for a meet. You don’t want to become another online chat buddy.

Questions to Ask a Girl You Just Met (and Make Her Yours)

Looking for questions to ask a girl you just met?

Keeping reading…

In this short guide I’m going to tell you exactly what to say when meeting new women.

Picture this: You’re out at a bar or club and you’ve just worked up the nerve to approach a girl.

You’ve gotten through your opener, she hasn’t rejected you or run off yet. And is actually interested in talking you.

But here’s the problem…

You have no idea what to say or what questions to ask her.

Don’t worry, it’s a lot easier than you think, and with the following tips, you’ll do better than 90% of guys out there.

First, here are some basic rules for talking to women

You want to do what I call the “Run-down”

This is where you find out as much as you can about her.

The reason why you want to do this is because the more you know, the more you can tailor your seduction attempts to fit her.

A good idea is to pretend you’re a CIA officer.

Imagine you’re interrogating someone who could be a member of a terrorist cell, and you need to find out critical information.

You want to be cool, calm and collected and not too forceful or pushy.

But at the same time you need to find out certain things about her.

The psychology behind this is the more she tells you about herself, the more she feels she knows you, and the greater chance you have of picking her up.

And what you really want to do is get her to talk emotionally, to emote.

Because this is what creates a deep bond and allows her to connect with you emotionally.

So listen carefully about the way she talks about various topics.

When she becomes emotional you know you’ve struck gold and should continue exploring the topic.

And that’s the point

You see, it’s not really about the specific questions, or the exact content of the questions, but about the psychology behind those questions.

Another thing you need to do is limit what you tell her.

You need to be a little mysterious, don’t tell her everything about yourself.

Instead, lay back and relax and let her do the talking.

You do the listening.

This works because no one listens, everyone wants to talk the whole time, and most people are desperate to be heard.

So if you’re a person who actually listens (And really listens) you’ll stand out from every other guy out there.

Remember, you want to find out as much information about her as you can, and then feed it back to her and use it in your seduction.

So what type of questions should you ask her?

Here’s where we get to specific questions…

Start off by asking her trivial questions, like who she’s there with and what she’s drinking.

Then move onto things like her relationships and what she wants out of life.

You can talk about her job, her friends, hopes and dreams and also ask about her long term relationships plans.

Then you can move onto more intimate questions like her relationship with her parents and most importantly, her relationship with her father.

You see, if she has a bad relationship with her father, then she’s going to be more open to have a one night stand with you.

It’s sad, but in my experience, women who have a bad relationship with their father are usually far more open to quick, easy hookups.

The reverse is also true, and if you’re looking for a stable, long term relationship, then go for girls who have a stable relationships with their parents.

Bottom line, you want to find commonalities between you and her, and get her to talk emotionally.

Another thing you can do is ask about her beliefs about God and politics.

Doing this will make you seem deep and intelligent, as if you’re a guy who thinks about more than just superficial and trivial things.

And when you’re doing this, don’t agree about everything.

If she believes in something, sometimes say you believe the opposite and vice versa.

These tips will help you get started when coming up with questions to ask a girl you just met.

But if you’re still struggling, here are a couple of sample questions you can memorize

  • Who did you come here with tonight?
  • What are you drinking and what do you like about that drink?
  • Who is your best friend and why are you guys still friends after all these years?
  • Where do you work, is your job fun, do you enjoy it?
  • Do you have any brothers or sisters, tell me about them?
  • What are your parents like?

With these tips and tricks, you’ll be able to talk to any girl, for as long as it takes to get her into bed.